How to Recover From the Loss of a Family Member |
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By: Samantha Biehn Posted: 2010-01-05 07:43:50 |
| On Mother's Day, my dad had what he thought was a bad case of heartburn, and finally my mom convinced him to go to the hospital. On the way there, he went into cardiac arrest and never regained consciousness. He slipped into a coma and died nearly a week later. It's been just over six months and I am sometimes overcome by sadness and grief. I can't imagine what my mom must feel.My dad was relatively young, at 62 years old. He was healthy and in shape. I didn't want his death to be for nothing. My sisters and I took his death and turned it into an opportunity to talk to other people about their own health and wellness. We encouraged others to exercise, because that's what my dad did. We wanted him to live on in us. What my sisters and I learned from this is that this is how we are recovering from his loss.When you lose someone, you simply want to make sense of it. Remember the things that gave your loved one joy and peace and share it with people. I love it when people ask me about my dad or when I have the opportunity to tell someone what a great man he was because it helps me to deal with his death. I encourage you to talk about your lost family member. Don't put away their photos. Let them remain a strong part of your family, even if it hurts. It will hurt more to pretend that they didn't exist.Some days, I feel like my dad is more a part of my life than he ever was. When I make a decision, I try to remember how he might have made that decision. I live my life hoping to make him proud and that has helped me in the recovery process. |
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