The True Power Of Interdependence |
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By: Dan Storey Posted: 2008-01-01 03:42:36 |
| There are various stages we go through as we grow and develop. Playing with my nephew today, I witnessed him progressing from crawling to walking. Although he is now very proficient at using just the two points of contact, there are still times when three or four are a little more stable.One key development that people can go through is from Dependent to Independent to Interdependent. Whilst this may seem obvious at first glance, it is incredible to see how few individuals make it fully through to the final stage.Imagine for a moment a child who decides that they are actually happy enough with the crawling stage of movement. Unaware of what is possible if they were able to walk or run, they settle for shuffling around on hands and knees. To them, they are still are able to get from A to B, but they are working far harder than necessary; there is an easier way! This is effectively the position people put themselves into when they fail to negotiate the gap to Interdependence.Most people find it easy to get away from Dependence. As we grow older, we rely less on the constant support our parents or guardians provided during our ages of insecurity and need. We are gradually weaned to a position where we believe we can take care of ourselves. Because we have finally reached this state of Independence, we tend to believe that we do not need anyone to achieve anything from now on.However, what successful people realise is that to truly be a success, you need the assistance of other people. Napoleon Hill described it as a MasterMind; a collection of people, real or imaginary, who lend their knowledge and experience to those who need it. The most successful people in history have surrounded themselves with the greatest minds of their time so that they can use their resources as and when they are required.The problem is ego. Most people don't like to admit that they require help from others to accomplish the larger, more challenging goals. Their pride stops them from asking, and they become more and more determined to make it happen on their own. They often then work harder, immerse themselves in their tasks and become further cut off from the people they really need.Who do you know like this?Many people see Interdependence as a weakness. It seems almost to be taking a step backwards, closer to the dependence stage of their youth. It is easy to understand this point of view; reliant on others for your own success. However, the truth is it really demonstrates a self-confidence and inner strength that enables someone to recognise their own weaknesses and welcome others to fill those gaps. To become successful, the chances are you are going to have many such gaps to fill.Your challenge today is to ask yourself where are you trying to do it all and where can you increase your levels of Interdependence with others in order to make it easier for you to achieve even bigger things. The sooner you summon up the inner strength to develop your own MasterMind group, the sooner you will arrive at your success! Who knows... maybe someone is waiting for YOU to become part of THEIR MasterMind.Dan Storey is a Coach and Trainer specialising in Success and Personal Development. Working in both personal and corporate environments, you can find out more at http://www.danstorey.com - Become Success! |
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